It’s a bonus we receive in our Third Trimester to be our own best friend. Ironically, we seem to receive this bonus through experiencing loneliness.
You may have heard that as people age, they get more lonely. You could say that there is something to that, that the reality of loss often increases during this time. Sometimes it seems to me that we are “supposed” to experience loneliness for the teaching it has to give. Could it be possible that loneliness is one of the roads to self?
It’s very possible that loneliness drives us to connect. We are after all, pack animals. The fear of being excluded is within each of us. It is a fundamental driver. So when we reach out, when we participate, the loneliness diminishes.
Reaching out also means being proactive in putting out love. In doing so, you inform yourself about your unique gifts. When you give more love, joy ,help to the world you receive back more and more. The more friends you make, the more love you feel.
If you are your own best friend, that’s what gets you past those losses that seem so inevitable. That and keeping up your ability to make friends.
If you have not mastered this wonderful state of being your own best friend, it is well worth attempting to expand into it just a little more. Usually with very little practice most of us get the picture really fast. So when you take time to practice being with yourself in a friendly way, it becomes a habit (more on habits on another blog). You will discover the best friend you can have. Yourself. Of course, not in lieu of other friends but certainly as a primal point of focus.
Here’s my advice and as always it’s free
- Every time you post of Facebook” like” yourself. Click on it to let the universe know that you are here and you are at the ready.
- Give yourself the gifts you would give another person.
- When you are with yourself, make yourself comfortable as you would with a guest.
- Offer yourself the things that are good to have and spend time with yourself in a variety of ways.
- Remind yourself when you are alone you are not alone.
- Realize you are always with yourself. And that is a marvelous place to be !
Once the decision is made within to be your own best friend, the process of growth begins. Others are attracted to us. We find connection flows more easily And, we receive more than we ever dreamed. Gratitude fills the heart and in doing so, spills out to the world as a natural part of our being. We are pretty cool people!!!!
If your heart is full, if you still want more, if you like yourself I’d love to hear all about it. Post a comment and let’s hear some really good stories. The Third Trimester is listening as well as telling. We get really, really good at listening because there is so much to hear!!!!